can u change a person?

hmmm~
it is not easy as the time goes by..
u try to change 4 the sake of your love one coz u believe that says 'ppl change when they are in love as they would do anything 4 the other half'.
nampak seme nih berlaku depan mata.
ppl begged, cried,make promises and you can see they DID try la kan to change..and bcoz they want to,they successfully change the bad side for the sake of the one you love...
tapi bukan pada sesama bf or gf je...suami isteri,parents,sisters and most important to the ONE.
but wat if the other half are not willing to change?
not because of anything pun...cuma dia rasa kalau dia berubah, dia BUKAN diri dia sendiri as he will turn to someone else...
there was a long pause before a statement came out which lead to a disaster-'change to be a better person does not change the real you.it only fix the flaw that you have'. you can hear a long 'sigh' coming out before he came out with 1 statement that he regret it after 8 years 'i am who i am!i am not those guys!i am ME!'

well anyway,I dont have this problem before with my other relationship but with him aiyoooo~ but over the first year of the relationship as both of us din realize how the time flies before our friends says 'OMG~u guys are still together after these years?Gila ar~' which then only v noe n start to tick the day v meet which v oso forget!hahaha then the problem started-started off with the scene of love-bird holding hands and the sales assistance in 1Utama ask me if i can send regards to my BROTHER-as v dun act like 1.when pertikaian berlaku -jawapan artis- 'i am who i am!i am not those guys!i am ME!' n then he started to say that even do he is younger,he need to be respected-which i dunt~so becoz i really in lurve-katernyer, i change n respect him more n understand him more n eh seme la benda just for him.....but when i ask him to do the same- jawapan artis- 'i am who i am!i am not those guys!i am ME!'

then after 8 years it was the question of why cant u console me when u noe im sad or kecik ati?he just stood there n kept quiet n then the question of the day-if u bebetul sayang then gif me 5 thing tat u do to in order to prove tat u really do sayang--------------------------------------------------a long pause of 20 minutes with silent before the answer came out which was rejected due to not achieve.so due to the frustration, i went silent and become lunatic after tat n change the subject and he simply forget the issue before i brought it up again and his promises came n go but the jawapan artist is always there to act as a defense weapon.and became lali oledi with the answer n his attitude.until i cant take it anymore~biasala -my hand sure bengkak punya kan?and fer all this years he did not understand the meaning of 'CHANGE' and that nite he finally get it..tapi i just give him 3 weeks max before he FORGET about the argument...or maybe i shud just go and follow wat ever they say?tapi skang nih dah nampak macam dah lupa jer apa yang di promise kan??

i was depress..not having a blast n just pretend nothing happen but then how to forgive n forget?so?can u change a person?i was being told n taught that u can change a person but the person need to realize n make it happen.but this does not happen to this 8 years relationship...can an individual live together by just let it go?